Rules of the Road

By: LoveMyWife

So your husband says he wants to be submissive to you. (or you want him to be submissive to you) Well here is a list of things you may want to do with him, one at a time, as a proof of his submissive. This should all be done in loving, mutual fun way with the realization that arrest or public embarrassment can affect careers and relationships. So have fun, be careful and giggle and kiss a lot.

1) He should be shaved. Yes, that’s right, his pubic hair should be shaved off and he should keep himself smooth and stubble free from now on. This is none negotiable and should be understood from the beginning.
2) Right after he shaves for the first time, have him sit on the edge of the bed, lie back and pull up his knees. You’re going to stick your finger into his ass. Yes, you’re going to finger fuck him. You will need a rubber glove and some lubricant, Vaseline, butter, olive oil, whatever. He is going to be extremely embarrassed to present himself to you in this fashion, his anus is a very private spot, not seen or touched by anyone. That is why you’re doing this. Once he is in position and holding his cheeks apart, lubricate your middle finger and his asshole and slowly press your finger to his opening. Slowly start to enter him. Look into his eyes as you penetrate him. Talk to him and have him talk to you as you both experience his submissiveness to you and this act of penetration.. Think about what he is allowing you to do, he’s naked, shaved and your finger fucking his ass. Pull on his cock and balls as you slide in. Go in as far as you can, slowly. Look into his eyes when you are in all the way and tell him you are in all the way. Ask him how he likes it.. This may be the first time you are inside his body, enjoy the power exchange.
3) He needs a good cock teasing at least once a day. This doesn’t mean he’s going to have an orgasm, in fact he is not. But he needs to be hard and brought to the edge of an orgasm at least one time a day, either by you, or for you. “For you”, means brining himself close to orgasm and stopping. Yes, this means masturbating for you, on demand. Two things here. One, he must learn to tell you he is about ready to orgasm and ask you to stop and he must learn to masturbate for you, and stop. Orgasm control is a powerful psychological aspect for a submissive man, and you too will learn to enjoy your teasing and control. It is another important power exchange with you controlling the single physical aspect of maleness that is maleness alone, a hard cock and orgasm at will. This also means that unsupervised masturbation must end, and he will only orgasm with your permission. Orgasm denial is part of cock teasing, but remember, orgasm denial without teasing is just ignoring him. Touching, nudity and teasing must go along with denial. Denial is your ultimate control, his ultimate surrender.
4) Nudity, him naked, you dressed. This should be done at awkward times, odd times, whenever you like, when he least expects it. Obviously if you’re going to tease his cock, make him strip. Make him strip even if you are not going to tease him. If he doesn’t usually sleep naked, he should now. In fact, anytime he is in your bedroom he should be naked. At some point, make sure you bring him to every room in the house naked. Lead him to each room naked, by his cock, the basement, laundry room and garage, all will now hold memories of your control
5) Nudity outside is more problematic, but should be attempted. Start with outside of your home late at night. Be careful to pick a night when you know your neighbors are away. Again, at night put him in the passenger seat of your car and tell him to strip. Put the seat all the way back. Pick some back roads and drive slowly and carefully, and DON’T drink. If you like, a highway may give a glimpse of his nudity to a trucker. He wouldn’t like that, you may. Reach over with one hand and keep him hard reminding him not to cum. Don’t stay out long, fifteen minutes should be enough. Pick a secluded place where you can stop to allow him to dress so he doesn’t interfere with your driving.
A nude beach could also be fun. He will be naked of course and you should be in your swim suit to emphasize his submissiveness. Remember he is shaved, so anyone who sees the two of you walking together knows who’s in charge. How embarrassing would a hard on make this? The object here is to be seen by as many as possible, so walk, don’t sit in the sun. Well you can sit on the beach and enjoy the sun, but not until everyone has seen him naked.
6) Embarrassment is also part of the fun obviously. Be careful not to embarrass him or yourself in font of friends or co-workers. This must be done carefully and for the fun aspect of your dominance.
Ordering wine and his dinner at a restaurant is a simple start, and one he will enjoy. While with friends for drinks or dinner, whisper in his ear, “what do you think they would think knowing you’re shaved, knowing I control your orgasms”. After his yearly physical ask him if the doctor said anything about his shaving.. If he works out in a gym, ask him if other men are shaved and what they look like, are they big, circumcised, big balls, small balls, compare them to him.
Having him talk about how horny he is, his being shaved, his orgasm denial or seman eating (see below) at normal or none sexual times is fun.
If you have one girlfriend you can trust, and you probably don’t, arrange an “accidental” flash. Remember, it only appears as an accident to your girlfriend, your guy might not like it but he’ll cooperate. He is in gym shorts and a tee shirt and that is it. You can grab him and tickle him in front of your friend, accidentally pulling down his shorts exposing him, then after all the hooting and hollering, pull then all the way down and step on them. He will have to step out and run. Remember, he knows this is coming so he may be hard, and of course he is shaved. You can have a quick laugh with your friend and tell her you better see if he is OK. Go to the bedroom, strip him, grab his cock and lead him back to your girlfriend, saying, “well you have already seen him naked, you may as well get a better look.”
Doing the same thing in front of a couple would be more than twice as embarrassing but very hard to arrange.
7) Proving his submissiveness can be tested with the above situation, but should also include most if not all of the list to follow.
You should orgasm much more than he does. That goes without question, his submissiveness definitely translates into you cumming more. You need to teach him how to orally please you better, and as often as you like. I know this may seem odd, but a tongue up your ass will feel great, and he wants to do it for you, so tell him that is now a part of your oral pleasure. Don’t worry, you don’t’ have to do it for him.
Back rubs, foot rubs, leg rubs, body massages, anything you think you might like you should try, and then do as much as you like. He loves every minutes of doing anything for you, especially if he is physically close to you.
Help with house work, yard work and generally being a better partner is assumed. He can also learn to cook with your teaching. He is not your slave, but he can be a more than a 50% partner in the house holds chores you don’t like doing. Delegate, delegate, delegate. He will not do things if you don’t tell him to do them, and show him how you want them done. He can’t read your mind, so tell him when he is doing something wrong, but more importantly tell him when he is doing something right, and ask him to do it again.
It’s not all about sex but a lot of his submission is. You need to talk to him and ask him what turns him on or off. Ask him what he expects and wants. Tell him what you expect and want. Keep an open mind and don’t freak out if he has some silly fetishes. He is sharing everything with you and no one else, so even if it seems pretty odd or nasty, try it, make him do it, whatever.
There is only one thing that all submissive men must learn to do. You should have this conversation with him in a none sexual environment, so the reality of the requirement is finite, unequivocal and a given. Every time he orgasms, he must consume his ejaculate. That’s right, you heard me correctly. If he ejaculates in you he must lick you clean. If he ejaculates on you, he must lick you clean. If you masturbate him or he masturbates for you, you must feed him his semen. If you give him a blowjob, don’t swallow, give him a big, cum filled kiss and have him swallow. At some point you should make him shoot into a cup or a glass and he must drink it down. This requirement for all submissive men does two things. It puts a real price on his orgasms, and it shows your acceptance of your dominance, and his acceptance of your dominance, no matter who brought the topic up. This again is none negotiable and should be explained to him when he first approaches you with his desire to be submissive to you or your desire to lead the relationship. If he does not accept this simple requirement, he is not really submissive. He should be reminded that eating his ejaculate is expected, and if he can’t, then all his other submissive desires are not going to happen. It is the only test and proof that he is sincere in his desire to be submissive, and your only requirement showing you are to assume the leadership role in the relationship.
Remember, a loving face fucking with a semen filled pussy is a gift. Your man going to sleep with a soaked face and the taste of cum in his mouth must become common place. This is for his own good.

There is much, much more of course, but you will discover things along the way. These are just a few suggestions but a good starting point for exploring this new aspect of your relationship. The most important thing is to have fun. If he approached you, he has a need. If you approached him, you have a desire to change the course of your relationship. Either way, if it is done in a loving fashion, it will be fun and bring you closer. So enjoy.

Originally posted 2009-01-13 16:21:27.


  1. Macbeth says

    I have to tell you that your stories are so REAL! I would really like to know if they are true or if you just happen to be a great writer. I have read every one of your postings here and will be going to your blog shortly. If this is real, you are definitely living my dream. Except for the cum eating. I was in a FLR for about 4 years and we did lots of the things you have written about here. Right down to making me strip in the car and then she would pull up to truckers and I was not allowed to cover my SHAVED crotch. Your statement about drinking your cum, “it’s no longer sexy, I’m no longer horney,” etc. Me in a nutshell. For 4 years my wife had the house cleaned, the laundry done, her ironing done and on and on. Of course she had all the oral orgasms she wanted. She is very “orgasmic.” One weekend we spent in her sister’s house while she and her husband were out of town…..I was naked the entire weekend and I gave her 182 orgasms but did not receive a single one in return. I AM getting to a point here…..for some strange reason she ended her dominance over me almost overnight. I still don’t understand it because now she has to do all of her ironing though I still do 90 % of all the household chores and take care of our acreage as well. Anyway, my point is that now I have to find solace in other’s stories, like yours and sometimes, after a week or two denying myself an orgasm (she no longer seems to want sex from me) I start thinking “ok…this is the time – I’m either going to cum in my hand or in a glass and I’m going to suck it all down like a ‘good little slave.'” Then I ejaculate and I look at the stuff and find there is no way I could get it down my throat. So I would have to agree with you, it would have to be something she MADE me do. And, OMG, what a way to really get into sub space! We never took this public but your story about the other couple and what you did was extremely erotic to me. But I have to tell you that where you added the part where you sucked his cum off of her shoulder made me think this is just fiction. One would have to be SO far into subspace to do that, in my opinion. But I loved the picture your words drew for me. I used to hope she would take me somewhere like that and that I would be the only person naked while everyone else was dressed. But always figured it sounded much better as a fantasy than as reality. Now you have me wanting to find a group of people in my area, or even just a couple I could do that with! The couple in your stories have a DREAM life…they love each other and realize the woman should be dominant over the man’s submissive nature. I’m also interested in enforced chastity but I find most stories on the internet to be ridiculous about remaining belted for months or even years at a time. And a good submissive husband would not need to be tied down in order to get the device back on him…..he would replace it himself and gratefullly hand his lover the key for her to keep until she was ready to bring it out again.

    I would be really interested, if you do actually have this kind of relationship with your wife, how it got started…who brought it up…how quickly did you move forward? Would also like to know how the other couple was brought into this…how did it come up in a conversation… did you know they were the right couple? I have often wondered what it would be like if my wife were still dominant over me and she knew of a male dom who had a female sub and they brought us all together to play….what that would be like. Might I be forced to service all of them even though there would be no release for me? I’m sorry, I could write about this forever since it’s my favorite subject but I’ll stop to breathe now and sincerely hope you will respond and answer some of my questions!

  2. Fred Jones says

    Somewhere between 1 & 2, you should take some nude photos of him. Laugh it off. It’s just for fun. Nobody will ever see them.

    At each stage, you must document your control of him with accidental pictures and secret video tapes. Men love doing this to women and there should be some payback. Remember a little blackmail, just to help things progress and make it interesting.

    Back in the days before digital photography, my girl friend would take a roll of film with my nude photos on it and put it behind her back with 2 other rolls of film from our vacation together. There where the all the same type of film. She would make me choose a roll of film for developing and I would have to go Ritz camera or another one hour film store to have it developed. She loved the place where everyone could stand and watch the pictures come out of the developing machine. The first time she had me do it, there where 6 no lie 6 young women working the machine. She had me go in loose shorts and a t shirt, no underwear. She had me sit on the bench just outside of the film store. I did not know if I was going to arrested or what. I was so nervous that my hands where shaking. I sat there for the entire hour. She watched from a distance. When my pictures developed, first one female teenager all of a sudden exclaimed ” Oh my God, he’s naked. All of the girls gathered around to see, laughing with lust filled gazes and embarrassment. I paid for the pictures and I remember that I had been instructed to make sure that I purchased a new roll of film. The sex afterwards was always hot but I was so excited, turned on with lust, fear and humiliation, that I would come in seconds.

    After some weeks, playing these games, she wanted to shoot other men, just to compare, for her photography class, that she had decided to due I think because our games.

    Other times, she would give me the film at 8:25 PM on a Saturday night. And then she would tease me about how someone at the store would make an extra copy for themselves.

    When she wanted to show me off to her friends naked and I tried to get out of it, she would remind me that she had the photos. She would always put it to me as a dare or if you love me you would do this or that.

    She loved the power that she had over me and more than that, she loved humiliating me.

    One of her models, was a life model at the local university, which we both happened to be attending. She could not think of a more humiliating fate for anyone than to be naked for 2 and half hours in front of men and women that we probably see in the cafeteria.
    She used those photos to ” encourage me” to pose for one and then several life classes.

    I think that our relation changed the most during those months. I think that photographing naked men got her hot. I enjoyed the fruits of that but she saw that not all men had a three inch dick like me, and all of them had stronger bodies. Even one of closest friends who was 5′ 2” was much better endowed.

    Another of her models was gay. She talked to him about his modeling and his sex experiences. She wanted to photograph two men together. He had seen her work and he urged her to get me to pose for a gay publication. That was too extreme for me, too public. She gave me the choice of doing that or being shot by her with gay Bob. I choose the later.

    She always told me that she did not show her pictures to even her best girlfriends.

    She also told me that she never had sex with her models. I was not allowed to be around while she was “working” The models might get shy. She never discussed how she got the models to always have a hard on, but when i saw some of her work, they did.

    Overtime, we became aware of various femdom clubs, parties, lifestyles.

    Her work moved into video as well as pictures. The parties grew larger, more extreme – and my participation, my level of submission where all documented by her & others.

    Our games have included banding with rubber bands.

    Now she has an appointment for me next week for a vasectomy, which she wants to videotape. She has teased me about my fear of being castrated. I think from the way she is acting and that she wants to bring some of girlfriends along ” to help set up the video equipment ” that she has convinced the doctor to open me up just a little more, maybe to take my balls/testicles out of my sack just for her to see and to ad drama to her video.

    We see what happens.


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